Tension Myositis Syndrome (TMS) and Authentic Indifference
Treating TMS with Authentic Indifference can be challenging, but with practice it is achievable. Authentic Indifference, or not caring so much about your pain is important when trying to rewire our neuropathways and recover from chronic pain. We need to be authentically indifferent when it comes to our pain.
Normally when we’re in pain we want to fix it. Naturally, we want it to go away. That’s normal. That is how our brains are wired, but in the case of chronic pain, this is not what we want.
Pain Is Just a Symptom
In the case of TMS, pain isn’t the problem. Pain is just a symptom. Living intensely is the problem. Fear is the problem. The primitive/fear brain is trying to pull our focus to pain and fear all the time to keep us safe. We must teach it that it’s safe to live in the peace and calm. We don’t need to be on the lookout all the time. It’s safe to relax
The Pain Is Benign
The good news about TMS, also known as Neuroplastic Pain, Mind-Body Syndrome, or just Chronic Pain, is that it is benign, so there is nothing to worry about! It is a symptom of an over active primitive brain. In some cases there has been a physical injury or illness but the brain keeps the pain going after the injury has healed. The brain can learn pain. We can teach the brain to stop signaling, or amplifying pain.
There are No Monsters Under The Bed
TMS is like a four-year-old child pulling at her mom’s skirt telling her there are monsters under the bed.The four-year-old believes there are monsters under the bed just like our fear brain believes there are monsters under the bed. We have to gently teach our primitive brain that there are no monsters under the bed. All is clear!
And this takes practice and repetition. That’s it!
There Is No Ambulance
No ambulances are sneaking up behind you! With TMS there is no injury, the brain is just making a mistake. When you are driving and an ambulance sneaks up behind you, you immediately go into fight/flight/freeze/fawn mode and do what it takes to let the ambulance through. With TMS there is no ambulance, but the fear brain is acting as if there is one.
It’s amazing how our primitive brain takes such good care of us. It’s just doing what we have trained it to do.
In my case I refused to live slower, in the peace and calm, because the need for achievement and perfectionism was running my life. I thought I was nothing without good opinions from others. I didn’t know that I could be balanced and successful.
TMS is a False Alarm
TMS is a false alarm. Our brains think there are monsters under the bed, an ambulance sneaking up behind us, or that there is a fire, BUT THERE ISN’T. The pain is just a false alarm.
Can you slowly and gently teach your fear brain that there is no need for alarm? Learning and practicing Authentic Indifference is one way to do this.
How To Practice Authentic Indifference
When practicing being authentically indifferent with our pain, 3 states that are all related come to mind.
- Become interested about the pain.
- Become curious about the pain.
- Let go of fear around the pain.
Becoming Interested When Practicing Authentic Indifference
I know it’s not easy, but it’s not the pain we need to work on, we just need to relax and shift from hypervigilance and intensity to peace and calm. There is nothing to fix as far as the pain goes. That is just wasted time. We just notice it. We notice it and get curious about it, that’s it. It doesn’t matter if it’s there or not because it’s safe.
Like Arte Johnson on the 1970’s sitcom “Laugh In” used to say:
You don’t want to fight the pain and you don’t want to try and fix the pain. Just become interested about it. It’s interesting how our brains can signal pain where there is no injury.
Curiosity and Authentic Indifference
Mind-Body Pain and Authentic Indifference means becoming curious. Curiosity is important when we are practicing being authentically indifferent toward our pain because curiosity takes us out of fear.
Here is an article about how to harness curiosity. Can you practice being curious about the pain, or curious about why the brain is miss-signaling pain, instead of fearing it? I suggest making a daily practice of just 5 minutes to start, and sit with curiosity.
This is hard to do for people that are often preoccupied and worrisome, but it really works and you can train yourself to live this way instead of in fear and angst.
Authentic Indifference and Letting Go of Chronic Pain
Neuroplastic Pain and Authentic Indifference means letting go. It means genuinely not caring whether the pain is there or not. Like I said earlier, we know the pain is safe. It’s uncomfortable, but not dangerous. We don’t need to be in high alert over something being uncomfortable.
Fear is the Fuel for Chronic Pain
Being impressed, focused, and preoccupied is what fuels the pain. The more we focus on it the more danger messages we give our fear brain, which keeps the pain fueled.
Practicing becoming interested, curious, and letting go of the pain because it’s safe are all important factors when treating TMS because they create a state or energy of authentic indifference. This sends safety messages to our brain, which will turn down the pain.
There are no ambulances. We can just drive and listen to Lionel Richie. We can be Easy Like a Sunday Morning. Something about that song always helps me to relax. The rational brain can start to take over. We start to live from a place of resilience instead of fear. The pain goes away on its own.
No need to work on the pain. When the pain stops mattering, the pain will go away.
Pain is not the problem!
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